Does the way we grow up effect how we expect other to act? Manners and how people are suppose to act in their relationship are what have me so confused right now. I grew up in a very small, conservative, family-oriented town. So I can’t help but be annoyed when someone doesn’t have to manners to acknowledge or at least greet others when they come into a room. Then there’s how one should behave if in a relationship. I have always been under the impression that there should be some set of boundaries when friends of the opposite sex mingle while one of them is in a relationship. It has nothing the do with being secure in the relationship, because trust in key in any relationship. I feel like it has more to do with respect for the relationship itself. I know, some guys will probably say that his girlfriend isn’t the jealous type or that his girlfriend is ok with the dynamics of the friendship between him and his female friends. The fact of the matter is, that even the most trusting girlfriend does have boundaries of comfort levels when it comes to their boyfriend and his female friends. She may never admit it, but she can’t help but feel it. We’re girls. Whether we like to admit it or not, we are emotional beings and sometimes we can’t help the way we feel.

So the girls that are the friend, should we automatically know these boundries and make sure not to cross that line out of respect or is that up to the guy. And what if he is the one instigating it. At times I have completely forgotten about these boundries and didn’t think anything of it because I was just hanging out with my friend. Later on when I really think about it, I can’t help but feel bad. What if that were my boyfriend and his friend. So where does that leave us? Do we put so much weight on relationships which is what starts problems? Should we be careful with how we interact? Or should we just go on with how we would normally behave unless a problem arises? Being girls, we’re more attuned to other people’s feelings. So where does that leave us? Nothing in life is simple, especially in a relationship and apparently in a male to female friendship.